You’ve heard the story of the insensitive husband who, when asked by his wife why he never said, “I love you,” answered, “I told you I loved you when I married you. If anything changes I’ll let you know.”
Even though we laugh (unless it hits too close to home), we can be guilty of taking our husbands for granted, too. In the busyness of working and raising families, we can forget to do the little things that cause our husband to know that we love them.
Marriage is hard work. Good marriages don’t just happen. If we want a marriage that lasts for a lifetime, we need to be willing to nourish and protect it. We do that in dozens of big and little ways. I’ve gathered a list of 25. My list is not all-inclusive, but it will certainly get you started.
25 Ways to Tell Your Husband You Love Him:
1. Say it.
We like to hear the words, “I love you.” So do our husbands.
2. Slip a note in his pocket or briefcase.
Let him know how much you appreciate him or think about him.
3. Bake his favorite dessert.
The way to a man’s heart and all that.
4. Cook his favorite meal.
Even if you have to get the recipe from his mother!
5. Give him your undivided attention.
When he’s talking to you, quit checking your phone or multi-tasking. He’ll feel valued if he knows you really care about what he has to say.
6. Ask for his advice.
Even if it’s a decision you typically make, ask for his advice. Let him know you appreciate his wisdom and opinions.
7. Watch a favorite movie with him.
If you’re husband’s like mine, he enjoys just being with you. Make it a priority.
8. Show an interest in his work or hobby.
If you try to learn a little about it, you might even find it interesting. If not, just do it for him.
9. Eliminate criticism from you conversation.
There aren’t many things more damaging to a marriage than constant criticism and put-downs.
10. Send him a sweet text during the day.
Add all the emoji’s you like.
11. Say “yes” to sex, whether or not you feel like it.
This says “I love you” to men in ways it’s hard for women to understand.
12. If he asks you to do something, do it.
Be dependable. Let him know he can count on you.
13. Hold his hand.
And while you’re at it look into his eyes like you did when you were dating.
14. Take a walk together.
If you have young children and need to take them with you, walk to a park and let them play while you sit on a bench, hold hands and talk.
15. Speak well in front of him to others.
You like it. He does, too.
16. Tell him how much you appreciate him.
Even if you wish he did more, find something for which to thank him. Make it a point to tell him what you appreciate about him: that he works hard to support your family, the way he loves you and the kids, etc.
17. Do something you don’t normally do.
Find something he usually does and do it for him.
18. Put the kids to bed early or take them to Grandma’s for the evening.
Then cook a romantic dinner and watch a movie or go to bed early.
19. Plan a week-end get-away.
Marriages need nourishment. Get away, if at all possible, and have fun together.
20. Don’t contradict or criticize him in public.
The Bible says “love is not rude” and this is rude, hurtful and disrespectful.
21. Don’t undermine him with the kids.
If you disagree, do it privately. Don’t talk bad about him to them. Don’t give them permission to disregard his instructions. Besides being wrong, you may find them losing respect for all authority, including yours.
22. Send him off to work with a kiss.
Just make it a habit. You’ll never be sorry you did.
23. Go to him when there’s a problem.
Whether it’s a problem between the two of you or some other issue, go to him first. He should be your best friend and your confidant. Don’t run to your mother or your girlfriend every time there’s a problem between the two of you. You may forgive him, but your mother may not.
Going to him when you need wisdom or advice, shows respect and confidence in his leadership. The stronger your communication and ability to work through problems, the stronger your marriage.
24. Pray for him.
And let him know you do. There is nothing you can do for him that is more powerful than praying for him. Ask God to help him be the husband, father, and man He wants him to be.
You can check out my post on “How to Pray ‘The Lord’s Prayer’ as an Outline” for some general information about praying.
There are, also, many great books on the subject. One of the most popular is Stormie Omartian’s book, The Power of a Praying® Wife.
25. Respect him.
Husband’s crave respect in the same way we crave to be loved and cherished. Ask him if there are ways he feels disrespected. When he tells you, listen quietly and carefully, without being defensive and let him know you’ll try to do better. And do.
I’ve learned in my own life that we show disrespect to our husbands in ways that don’t seem disrespectful to us.
If you’d like to know more about this subject, check out Shaunti Feldhahn’s book, For Women Only. It’s an easy read and the things she learned in her research will surprise you and make you a much wiser wife.25 Ways to Tell Your Husband You Love Him. #marriage Click To Tweet
What do you do to let your husband know you love him? How do you nurture your marriage? Let me know in the comments.
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